Method 1, an HTML code that displays the flash. There are 2 seperate places the player.swf is referenced in this chunk of code, both of these places need to have the rtone and skin set (look at the source of this page to see what i mean).

Method 2, a javascript code, much smaller and neater to give to your users, but won't work on sites like myspace. There is only 1 place to set the rtone and skin in this code and it is obvious where it is :)